Bereavement is one of the most profound experiences we can face. It touches every aspect of our lives—our emotions, thoughts, physical well-being, and even our sense of self. When clients reach out for  counselling after a loss, it’s often in a state of deep emotional turmoil. My approach is designed to support clients through this complex journey. By integrating a compassionate, trauma-informed approach, I aim to create a space where each individual’s unique experience of loss is honoured, validated, and respected.

Holistic Approach: Addressing the Whole Person

Bereavement isn’t just an emotional experience; it affects us physically, mentally, socially, and spiritually.  A holistic approach to bereavement counselling looks beyond emotional symptoms to address the entirety of the client’s experience. For example, the physical manifestations of grief, like fatigue or even chronic pain, are validated and explored just as deeply as emotional distress. Research supports the importance of this approach, showing that grief can significantly impact immune function and physical health (Stroebe, Schut, & Stroebe, 2007). Acknowledging this, I encourage clients to attend to their physical needs through gentle movement, mindfulness practices, and self-compassion exercises.

Person-Centred Counselling: Valuing the Client’s Journey

At the heart of the person-centred approach is the belief that each individual possesses the innate potential to heal and grow. This approach, rooted in Carl Rogers’ theory of unconditional positive regard, requires deep empathy, active listening, and acceptance without judgment (Rogers, 1961). In my counselling sessions, I aim to provide a compassionate space where clients feel safe to express their grief in their own time and way. No two journeys are alike, so I work collaboratively with each client to explore their unique experiences, feelings, and needs. By allowing the client to guide the counselling process, we respect their personal journey and encourage them to reconnect with their inner resilience.

Humanistic Approach: Recognising the Strength in Vulnerability

The humanistic approach to counselling views bereavement not as a problem to be “fixed” but as a natural part of life’s journey that, while painful, can also be transformative. This perspective values the client’s inherent worth and potential, fostering a deep connection to their inner strengths (Yalom, 1980). My role as a counsellor is to walk alongside clients as they navigate this transformative process, gently supporting them in finding meaning and purpose even in the midst of loss. Acknowledging bereavement as a deeply human experience allows clients to embrace their vulnerability, facilitating a path to healing that is grounded in authenticity and self-compassion.

Trauma-Informed and Compassionate Care: Creating a Safe, Supportive Space

A trauma-informed approach to bereavement counselling is essential, as many grieving individuals have also experienced trauma in their lives. This approach emphasises safety, empowerment, and collaboration, helping clients feel supported rather than overwhelmed.  In my practice, I am particularly mindful of creating an environment that feels safe and predictable. I work to gently encourage clients to process their loss in a way that aligns with their unique needs, recognising that for some, sharing their experience may feel daunting. Compassionate presence, rather than directive techniques, guides each session, allowing for a gentle unfolding of the experienced loss that respects the client’s readiness.

Supporting Your Bereavement Journey with Care and Compassion

Grief is often a deeply isolating experience. In our sessions, I aim to cultivate a connection that reminds you that you are not alone. Through a holistic, person-centred, and trauma-informed approach, I work to ensure that your experience is met with empathy, respect, and understanding. This journey isn’t about “moving on” but rather about finding ways to move forward with compassion and authenticity. Together, we can explore a path that respects your experience, supports your healing, and allows space for growth even in the midst of profound loss.

References

Bonnano, G. A., & Kaltman, S. (2001). The variety of grief experience. Clinical Psychology Review, 21(5), 705-734.

Rogers, C. R. (1961). On Becoming a Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy. Boston: Houghton Mifflin.

Stroebe, M., Schut, H., & Stroebe, W. (2007). Health outcomes of bereavement. The Lancet, 370(9603), 1960-1973.